Hahahahaha Kris yeahhhhh … full transparency: I don’t mind playing the other part, yet I would say it’s about an 80/20 split. It all depends on whether or not my partner (whoever she may be) says “okay, now it’s *my* turn.” ☺
Fuller transparency still: I can’t remember the last time I had an encounter that didn’t involve a level of play. Years ago, possibly more than a decade. So, up until the one written about here, I didn’t even know it was anything *unusual,* (she asked for it ahead of time by saying “I need a new Dom,” I googled what that entails and was surprised to find that it was just what I usually do) so I merely thought it was just par for the course.
(Probably way more info than you were looking for but here we are.)